By: David Butler
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Yet, how many of us seem at a loss when we try to start a conversation? Later on, we kick ourselves for not saying that funny thing or timely word. Duh! However, if you put into practice the following conversation starter tips for dating, you are on your way to succeeding in the future.
Conversation Starter Tip 1: Don't Hog the Ball!
We all hated that when we were kids, and we hate it as single adults when someone hogs a conversation. Remember, a good conversation starts with a dialogue, not a monologue. That means allowing your date to get in some of his or her thoughts as well.
Ever meet a person who asks you how you are doing, but then before you can open your mouth they spend the next 10 minutes droning on about their stuff? The bottom line is it's boring and annoying all rolled into one, so don't do it, okay? :)
Conversation Starter Tip 2: Show an Interest in Their Passion
Everyone enjoys speaking about themselves and their interests. So discover what your boyfriend or girlfriend is passionate about, and ask them sincere, open ended questions about the topic. You will see your date come alive, and a nice and easy flowing conversation will ensue. You may also find out something interesting and surprising about your single friend that you didn't already know.
Conversation Starter Tip 3: Be Prepared with Topics
Think about some interesting topics to discuss from daily events, news or funny htings that have happened to you recently. Just remember to avoid boring or controversial topics, like talking incessantly about the ex-girlfriend or boyfriend. This happens to be the number one complaint singles give about their dating partners.
Conversation Starter Tip 4: Give Them Undivided Attention
When you are having a conversation with your friend, make sure you concentrate solely on them. Look intently into their eyes while they are speaking. This not only make them feel important, but will give them the impression that you really do care about what they are saying. And you do, right?
Conversation Starter Tip 4: Be Vulnerable
It's hard to start a conversation with an overly guarded person. Hanging out with such a person is also a huge turnoff. Hey, we're not saying you should be giving away your bank account number to strangers, but opening up your heart a little bit by sharing your feelings helps the other person relax, and makes them open to sharing as well.
Conversation Starter Tip 5: Understand Body Language
Did you know that 93% of communication is non-verbal? So when you are starting a conversation with your date, take cues from their body language to assess if you are communicating well.
Good signs to look for when having a conversation: Leaning forward to you, dilated pupils, revealing palms and wrists, smiling, or uncrossed arms and legs. As you might have guessed, a dating tipoff that your conversation is not going well would include: folded arms and/or legs, rolling eyes, smirks, yawns, or leaning back and looking away from your eye contact. A smart communicator will gauge body language, and adjust their conversation accordingly.
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David Butler works as a Family Court Mediator and Parent Education Teacher. He also is a Christian minister to singles, and has a website, Christian Dating Service PLUS!, specifically geared to their dating and spiritual needs.